“It seemed to me that once I had gotten as low as I could go, and once I had decided that I wanted to stay, life came to meet me.
I had been so caught up in my pain for so long that I had forgotten how to reconnect with the flow of life”
Untangled is Alexandra’s debut book, a memoir touching on subjects that we would rather not talk about: dying, death and grieving.
In sharing her experience of loss and disconnection, she takes you on a journey from the cool inner suburbs of Melbourne to Tokyo, Berlin and New York, where she slowly finds connection – to herself and others.
Alexandra’s story is filled with humour, love and messy, painful truths. Let her words give you comfort that you too, in the midst of your own mess, can and will find life again, a life of love, kindness and support. Move with her from heart ache to hope.
Testimonials
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“Alexandra takes readers on a brutally honest, but beautifully crafted journey into the realms of grief and recovery and doesn't shy away from feelings of shame, regret and hurt. Alex allows you to contemplate your own grieving process while wrapping you in a warm hug. Heartbreaking and raw, but utterly compelling, it's hard to put down.”
Jeannie Vandevelde
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"Alexandra's story is such a deeply personal insight into how devastating the process of grief can be. From the outside looking in, one can never truly understand what a person who has experienced such deep loss is going through. As someone who was there during this tumultuous time in Alex's life, it feels profoundly privileged all of these years later, to read her book and get a true insight into what she was really going through. This book is raw, vulnerable and incredibly generous, and I know that everyone who reads this will benefit, as we all, at some time in our life, will experience the pain and loss and grief of being a human in this world.”
Dr Karina Smith
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“Although I didn’t think my emotions could handle it, I read Untangled in one sitting, riding the waves of tears and laughter through Alexandra’s story. Alexandra describes grief as a hot mess - and indeed it is! Her story reminded me that while our grief is unique to us, there’s going to be someone out there going through a similar hell. And if you’re going through hell, you might as well keep going! Thank you for giving me permission to cry and wail and to be as messy as I need to be.”
Jez Olivero
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“Untangled is a raw and courageous story of learning to survive through the tornado of grief. Alexandra’s story is inspiring to all who have found themselves on the same journey as I too, found myself when I lost both my parents only months apart when I was a teenager. I thought that grief was meant to be ‘dealt’ with then put away forever. Alexandra has reminded me that grief is a personal journey and to allow my own experience.”
Michelle Wilden
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“Untangled offers a message of optimism, compassion, and the transformational power of self-awareness, reminding us that it's never too late to disentangle the emotional tangles of our past and find our real selves. It's a tale of valour, tenacity, and the significance of accepting oneself. Alexandra conveys a message of self-love and the value of personal development.”
Kateryna Lavrynenko
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“Despite her journey through complex grief, Alex shines a guiding light for others experiencing heart-breaking loss.”
Rosemary Connors
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In our western culture, to talk of death and grief is somewhat taboo and mostly awkward. This book felt like a solid best friend who knew what to say and what stories to share in a dark time. Untangled offers comfort, raw honest truth and support in one's own complex, messy and often lonely journey through losing someone you love.
Eve Kermack
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“Untangled is honest and engaging”
Janna Scott